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ycs atlanta shitpost

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i’m really sorry for all of the garbage i’m about to write. i basically just want something to be able to link people to when they ask me why i didn’t enter ycs atlanta this past weekend. it’s a long, complicated, and awkward story to tell, so if you asked me in person and i told you that i didn’t play because i couldn’t find cards or something, i hope you can accept my apology; it’s nothing personal, i just figured most people wouldn’t want to hear the following schpiel (the only people that really heard it were the members of a facebook group chat that i reported the story in shortly after it happened).

 

unfortunately, explaining the story requires a lot of tmi background information. sometime after i stopped competing in 2013, i ‘came out’ as a nonbinary trans femme. so when i started playing again last november and had the opportunity to get a new cossy ID at a local in south carolina (KNK games, shouts out), i registered with my “new” first name, despite the fact that i haven’t completed my legal name change procedures since my move back from DC to TX last august.

 

i realize that this will probably come off as somewhere between conceited and delusional, and it’s not something i really expect anyone to “get,” but going into the event i was excited to play in a premier event for the first time “as myself,” name and all. i have never much cared whether or not people refer to me with correct pronouns, and haven't made too much of a deal about it in public or private since returning to locals in houston. as far as i'm concerned with personal relations, i'm still the same person i was when i played before; i don't really feel the need to re-introduce myself to people or force them to speak about me a certain way. for whatever reason, entering premier-level competitions with my “full name” is the one thing i’ve found myself being stubborn or sentimental about in my whole transitioning process thus far.

 

alas, my idyllic vision was not meant to be for this event. i was informed at the registration desk that i would have to use the name on my government ID card, regardless of the name registered with my cossy ID. let me be clear and say that while i wasn’t aware of this policy before (i thought they always pulled your cossy info regardless), i wholeheartedly believe that it is a good policy, and that my experience was wholly due to my own laziness and incompetence. i know of multiple players that have used fake ids to play in sanctioned events while banned in the past, and i prefer a premier event with proper safeguards against this happening, particularly with regards to banned cheaters.

 

some have told me that i should have still played, and they’re probably right, but i know how important the name thing is to me deep down inside, and at the end of the day i’d prefer to return to competing when i can make the conditions absolutely ideal for myself.

 

the last thing i want is for this to start some sort of witch hunt or riot against konami or their policies. my intent in writing this is to apologize, first to the people i lied to regarding why i didn’t play, as well as to say that when i eventually am able to return to premier-level competition, i'll be completely ready, and my results will hopefully show for it.

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So why haven't you got your legal name changed? It's not difficult; you just fill out some forms and pay a fee.

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well, i was going to do it while living in dc, but in most of 2015 i was being a lazy shithead about a lot of things, and by the time i got all the forms printed and everything i had already let my life fall apart in other regards, which ultimately forced me to move back to texas pretty abruptly last august. then my new job had me in south carolina from october until january, so i didn't have access to a notary in texas. i finally got to come home in the middle of january, and i guess i've been putting it off since then. no longer! since flying back sunday i've been working on my petition to formally start the process. i guess this was what i needed to finally get me to act on this stuff

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Also, in regards to wanting the Yugioh community to call you by your preferred name: It could be worse. I was literally called "penisfag" for 5 years straight. Eventually, you just learn to not care.

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people can always refer to me in person/conversation as whatever they want; i really hope this story doesnt come off as me being "that way," i'm just overly sentimental about putting my name in coverage/standings/etc in particular

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while we're talking about names, what's the meaning of "mmf"? Or is it just onomatopoeia. 

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best kind of porn, come on

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Just now, rei said:

best kind of porn, come on

i don't watch porn

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On-topic

 

For multiple people I know, names are a large part of their identity. I both understand and think it's unnecessary for you to have trepidation over explaining your name change or its importance to people.

 

Heck, names as identity is a core them of fantasy literature.

 

But I also don't think you need to apologize to anyone for lying because of the awkwardness, it's nbd.

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4 hours ago, mmf said:

people can always refer to me in person/conversation as whatever they want

Is "Matthew Madeline Penisfrog" ok?

3 hours ago, Gojira said:

while we're talking about names, what's the meaning of "mmf"? Or is it just onomatopoeia. 

"Matthew Madeline Frogman" I think

 

but yea, I can't really fault you for not entering over that. I know a transgirl who pretty much just rejects 95% of her identity pre-transistioning, so something as small as registering an event under your proper name is completely understandable to me.

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Personally I don't think you shouldn't worry about apologising for all this shit and if anything you should be more aggressive about names/pronouns, they're an integral part of your identity, and people treating them as nicknames or an quirk they can acknowledge when it suits them is pretty disrespectful, but I understand a lot of people are more laid back/understanding about that because you have to be cognizant that it takes some people a bit of time to adjust even if they're wholly supportive. Anyways glad this prompted you to get the whole official thing sorted out, it's been a pretty big milestone to some people I know.

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Disappointing. Thought this was going to be a thread trolling the dick pick guy

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5 minutes ago, tonyvelasco1337 said:

Disappointing. Thought this was going to be a thread trolling the dick pick guy

we already have a thread for that

 

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The more you know

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14 hours ago, Gojira said:

while we're talking about names, what's the meaning of "mmf"? Or is it just onomatopoeia. 

 

OKAY BUT WHAT'S THE ANSWER TO THIS

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mmf=madeline matthew ferguson (cashiola)

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On 3/6/2017 at 1:46 PM, Gojira said:

i don't watch porn

yea sure

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