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Aaron    2027

Hey, thought it'd be cool to write a list of shit we'd advise to ppl 10 years our junior or ourselves 10 years ago

 

1. Drink alcohol in moderation and sparingly ; i get it, we're at university/college and want to party but alcohol is very counterproductive to everything and learning to party without getting smashed is great for your health, ability to take opportunities, develop social skills and ur bigger goals studying/fitness/activities during the day 

 

Understand sacrificing alcohol and partying now will allow you in 3-5 years time to go to Vegas/Ibiza ripped, hench and rich with great skin. Infinitely better time and 10x more oppurtunity and quality. 

 

2. Know your goals in what you want to attain in the next year and 5 years and work towards them

 

3. Always wake up early, if you wake up at 6AM you can get most of your jobs done by 12PM and have the rest of the day to do wtf you want

 

4. Keep an eye on stocks and investments. Maybe 10 hours of research a month and risk money you can on ventures and let the investments sit

 

5. Buy stuff which will last and not drop its value so fast, e.g. camera lenses, as opposed to shitty disposable clothing

 

6. Don't take girls for granted in uni/college, they might seem a bit dumb and annoying but they're smarter than 95% of people you will meet in your working life afterwards 

 

7. Prioritise fitness + health  - bulk bulk bulk until age 21-23, only cut to get to 15% bodyfat, don't let alcohol get in the way of your goals, train smart + avoid injury 

 

8. Grow your hair ; take a year and grow your hair and see what it looks like, if it suits you, you will look better than 99% of people and it'll help you stand out A LOT and is a lot more versatile than any shitty buzz cut. Muscle + long hair = epic, good looking + long hair = epic. Maybe if you look like ur meant to be in a video game store, then get it cut. 

 

9. Don't invest too much or any time in religous societies.. shits a waste of time. Instead do some society shit which will help u long term aka dancing, salsa etc.

 

10. Learn another language

 

11. Play the BEST video games/films etc. whilst u have the time

 

12. Travel when you can at any oppurtunity 

 

 

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Bazoo    5700

Mirror 100% on #9, 10, & 11. Great advice. 

 

I'm coming from a perspective that I am pretty darn happy with my job, I'm married, and overall very content with my place in life. That being said, in college, I would have:

 

1. Met and mainted contact with a few extra people--possibly in an attempt to have more lifetime friendships.

2. Learned more proficient conversational Spanish and\or Chinese. Even had a roommate that majored in Spanish, don't know what I was thinking.

3. Learned to cook more solid recipes. I learned some but should have developed myself on common cooking etiquette more

4. Learned Python

5. For god's sake buy that boxed Chrono Trigger for $40 wtf is wrong with you

 

Just after graduation and in my first year in a job, I would have told myself:

 

6. As a teacher, act confident from Day 1. Set up everything students do in your room, structure their time, DO NOT allow even the smallest stupid shit to happen, kick their asses if they act immature. Realize that the kids in the area can reach great heights and have amazing potential, but they make poor decisions constantly if allowed, so you need to both show aggression and show them you care at the same time. 

7. Refrain with all your might from eating out when it isn't necessary, buy more groceries to prevent the temptation, and convince your wife+family members how much money we could save if we did not go out to eat. Seriously, I don't ever want to look at my wife and my bank statements from the first two years of work. I would cringe hardcore. There are no reasons to have money problems if I spend wisely.

 

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+rei+    34654

Don't buy three new cars in the span of five years

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Soul    7942

Can't believe I'm just seeing this but it's essentially, hey, I'm almost 30 now and grew up! All this advice is useless to kids in our shoes (especially at my age, 25). Obviously we can do things different, but this is not profound advice. This is simply hindsight. Profound advice would be not being a member of an online YGO clan.

 

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Soul    7942

And honestly @Aaron you scare the shit out of me because you're so fixated on surface level metrics of success i.e your looks and income. I've made a lot of money on my short 4 years as a professional and I still hate my life thus far. Granted, I'm not a doctor, but w.e. I'm also naturally thin and make six figures without a master's. Everything you preach includes the need for annotation really. 

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Aaron    2027
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2 hours ago, Soul said:

And honestly @Aaron you scare the shit out of me because you're so fixated on surface level metrics of success i.e your looks and income. I've made a lot of money on my short 4 years as a professional and I still hate my life thus far. Granted, I'm not a doctor, but w.e. I'm also naturally thin and make six figures without a master's. Everything you preach includes the need for annotation really. 

 

this is advice I'd tell MYSELF, not someone else. 

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Aaron    2027
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2 hours ago, Soul said:

And honestly @Aaron you scare the shit out of me because you're so fixated on surface level metrics of success i.e your looks and income. I've made a lot of money on my short 4 years as a professional and I still hate my life thus far. Granted, I'm not a doctor, but w.e. I'm also naturally thin and make six figures without a master's. Everything you preach includes the need for annotation really. 

 

 

i do get what u mean tho. money & income are not the only things which matter in life.. far from it.. and alone do not bring happiness. 

 

if i could turn back time i'd pursue something I LOVE doing... sadly i realised what I love in life fairly late when I'd already nearly finished uni, 

 

 

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You stress and psych yourself out about stuff that either really isn't important, in the end, is irrelevant, or that you simply can't and probably shouldn't be able to control if you're being honest.  Yes still strive to do your best but realize you are one human being with limitations and sometimes the results you would like are unrealistic. Stressing over it happens to be part of the problem and extremely counterproductive. You didn't make a 100 on everything? So what! You still made an A and did better than most of the class. Why are you upset? Talk to a fucking counselor. Find people you can lean on and don't be ashamed when you need to. When something requires a team build one you can trust and trust them. Don't try to carry a team and do everything for them.  Don't give up on things just because they don't come easy right away like you think they should. 

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+Urthor    10221

I'd drop out of uni and take a career doing what I love doing in a heartbeat even at 24, sadly I honestly just don't have anything in life I actually have enough of a passion for to say I want to do it super badly.  Which is why I'm grinding through this degree I only sort of want and watching people who are doing the same thing as I am but it's their passion fly by me.  

 

Maybe my profound advice would be not do a little bit of everything in all my choices and interests, but I actually really did enjoy and still do enjoy doing a little bit of everything, but that's not a very helpful thing to build your life around.

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+rei+    34654

Lauren is a date rapist and will fuck her roommate gtfo while you can.

 

You're still fat at 30 might wanna get on that

 

Being sad all the time isn't cool fake being high energy until you make it

 

Take care of your wrists you fuck them up badly and permanently at 25. 

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Aaron    2027
2 hours ago, Urthor said:

I'd drop out of uni and take a career doing what I love doing in a heartbeat even at 24, sadly I honestly just don't have anything in life I actually have enough of a passion for to say I want to do it super badly.  Which is why I'm grinding through this degree I only sort of want and watching people who are doing the same thing as I am but it's their passion fly by me.  

 

Maybe my profound advice would be not do a little bit of everything in all my choices and interests, but I actually really did enjoy and still do enjoy doing a little bit of everything, but that's not a very helpful thing to build your life around.

 

 

Yup, I'd advise anyone to do so. 

 

My job at the moment is alright. Like I mildly enjoy it, some days are better than others but its work. I like the idea of waking up and work not being work. I think with the level of effort, my early years/school intellect, my grades etc... I could have probably attained a life like that.

 

At the same time as my parents told me a couple of weeks ago.. its important to also be thankful of the situations ur in and that shit could sometimes be a lot worse.  I think the most annoying thing is trying to do shit u could have done at a younger age when you're older because you have to take time out of your life where time is a bit more precious.

 

 

My biggest regret is in regards to girls. I let A LOT of really perfect girls slip away because I always thought there'd be more. I moved city, started working and all of a sudden that pool gets a lot smaller when you're working with old women, you're working a lot of the time, more people are married and settle so less people to go out with etc. 

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Bazoo    5700

There are times when I wonder if I could have made more money if I majored in another field. Certainly it would make things easier when it comes to having and raising kids (wife could take more time off), but there is also a line. Once you hit, I'd say, the $120,000 mark or so, you don't really get happier with any more income. In fact I've seen 3 or 4 relatives get jobs making six figures BUT in various ways end up in worse financial situations. i.e. Have incredible student loan debt, constantly forced to eat out with work colleagues, buy a house/car outside their means, etc. 

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+rei+    34654
10 minutes ago, Bazoo said:

There are times when I wonder if I could have made more money if I majored in another field. Certainly it would make things easier when it comes to having and raising kids (wife could take more time off), but there is also a line. Once you hit, I'd say, the $120,000 mark or so, you don't really get happier with any more income. In fact I've seen 3 or 4 relatives get jobs making six figures BUT in various ways end up in worse financial situations. i.e. Have incredible student loan debt, constantly forced to eat out with work colleagues, buy a house/car outside their means, etc. 

also didnt your career path lead to your wife? 

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Aaron    2027
2 hours ago, Bazoo said:

There are times when I wonder if I could have made more money if I majored in another field. Certainly it would make things easier when it comes to having and raising kids (wife could take more time off), but there is also a line. Once you hit, I'd say, the $120,000 mark or so, you don't really get happier with any more income. In fact I've seen 3 or 4 relatives get jobs making six figures BUT in various ways end up in worse financial situations. i.e. Have incredible student loan debt, constantly forced to eat out with work colleagues, buy a house/car outside their means, etc. 

 

 

yup not to mention after 6 figures, tax fucking rapes you to the extent to make it worthwhile with the added responsability of a high paying job, you usually need to earn 200k+

 

I'd much rather under around 110k£ with no worries and low responsability than 150-180k in the UK.

 

 

or I'd much rather work 2-3 days a week earning 110k than 5 days a week earning closer to the 200k mark. 

 

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+rei+    34654

that's literally not how tax works dude 

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+rei+    34654

you pay the rate of the band on that portion of your income - so you'd only pay 45% on your income above 150, while paying 40% on all income in the previous bracket etc

 

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Dank Memeston    1716

If you think you've worked there for too long you should leave. Go outside and enjoy nature; explore. Everything hobby you get into consumes your life and you need to know that it is all your own fault but that you are also the agent of your own salvation. Don't use drugs alone, if at all. Go back to school and this time try to fit in. Don't be a contrarian in any aspect of your life that you are are not heavily invested in. Being friends with people just means showing people you care either through attention or act.

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Flacko    2143

don't get emotionally involved with anybody until you're out of highschool. 

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Faint    5854
On 28/05/2018 at 6:52 PM, rei said:

you pay the rate of the band on that portion of your income - so you'd only pay 45% on your income above 150, while paying 40% on all income in the previous bracket etc

 

This x1000

 

Aaron have you looked into tax like at all? Haha

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Aaron    2027
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On 30/05/2018 at 7:33 AM, Faint said:

This x1000

 

Aaron have you looked into tax like at all? Haha

 

 

On 28/05/2018 at 6:51 PM, rei said:

that's literally not how tax works dude 

 

 

You guys misunderstand my point.  I know how Tax works, I pay a lot of it lol. 

 

At the moment I earn £50/hr  although sometimes I can get paid from 55-75/hr for last minute shifts. 

 

Once I hit 100k, I take home <25/hr once I take into account NI deductions, student loan deductions, higher tax band. Also in the UK we have a tax free allowance. This gets reduced when you earn over 100k. 

 

I can comfortably hit 100k in 9 months. After that, the ammount of money I take home once taking into account NI, student loan, tax allowance deductions AND a higher tax bracket leaves me earning a pittance in comparison to having the time off or exploring other business ventures which are under a limited company rather than PAYE. 

 

 

Thats why I actually stop working after 100k. The amount of money I earn becomes not worth my time per hour compared to having that time off. 

 

I know its based on the portion of my income per band. My point is the extra 20-30k I will clear AFTER 100 will be a very small ammount of money in my bank account following deductions compared to the time I have to put in to make that money (3 months). 

 

 

When I'm at 100k, this kicks in:

"Income over £100,000

Your Personal Allowance goes down by £1 for every £2 that your adjusted net income is above £100,000. This means your allowance is zero if your income is £123,700 or above."

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Carbon    1876

Stop wasting time playing video games and eating shit food. 
don't be so scared to take chances. 

being introverted is boring af. 

take the gym seriously. 

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Aaron    2027
On 01/06/2018 at 3:00 AM, Carbon said:

Stop wasting time playing video games and eating shit food. 
don't be so scared to take chances. 

being introverted is boring af. 

take the gym seriously. 

 

Or 

 

Go to the gym, lift weights AND eat shit food = win 

 

I wish I did that instead lol. 

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Indignation    2858
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On 5/26/2018 at 10:40 AM, Urthor said:

I'd drop out of uni and take a career doing what I love doing in a heartbeat even at 24, sadly I honestly just don't have anything in life I actually have enough of a passion for to say I want to do it super badly.  Which is why I'm grinding through this degree I only sort of want and watching people who are doing the same thing as I am but it's their passion fly by me.  

 

Maybe my profound advice would be not do a little bit of everything in all my choices and interests, but I actually really did enjoy and still do enjoy doing a little bit of everything, but that's not a very helpful thing to build your life around.

This is my exact situation. I'm going to be 30 in three months and I feel like I am pretty good at everything but a master of nothing. I don't have a real passion and don't know how to find it. I even did some personality tests to find what career choices I would be good for. Well the results were literally even across the board with sometimes having maybe 1 section lower than the rest that I should avoid.

 

Anyway I decided after taking a 2 year hiatus from university, get my shit together and go back to finish my bachelor. I learned there are situations in life that are out of your control but instead of giving up, you should seriously evaluate the situation, costs and benefits of your options, and come to an informed decision to work your way around the challenges that pop up. 

 

What I would tell myself from 10 years ago?

1. Do not half ass anything in life, from school to your choice in friends.

 

2. Make small goals and when you achieve them make greater goals moving forward toward your grand goal.

 

3. There will be setbacks you did not account for in many aspects of your life. Do not let them ultimately defeat you. You might be a victim in a situation but do not slave yourself to a victim mindset even in the slightest. Evaluate the situation, deal appropriately with the situation as much as possible, and come to an informed decision to improve your situation and move on. 

 

4. Take the time off needed to grieve losses (deaths, friendships, betrayals etc...). Seek help if you feel you are not improving.

 

5. As tempting as it is, a nihilistic view of life is detrimental to your state of being and will ultimately destroy you from the inside out.

 

6. Friends are important but there will be times where you actually do have to cut ties with some friends when they are holding you down. Sometimes your friendships are based more on convenience than they are on an actual friendly relationship. Evaluate your own side of your friendships so that you are also not using people just for your own needs. You want true friendships. If people drop you, and you already reasonably tried to save the friendship, then let it go. You cannot change people, you can only change yourself.

 

7. When you meet a decent girl in university, put a bit more effort into that relationship, don't just brush them off because it is difficult to find other girls that you will appreciate conversations with in the same way.

 

8. Don't just get in shape, stay in shape. Keep your routine, and set greater goals, as I said in 2, because you can lose your gains really fast haha.

 

9.  We take many things for granted but we also sometimes become disillusioned with things we grew up thinking or taught were near perfect such as our education and health care systems as examples. Do not let this disillusion deter you from getting what you need when many obstacles that you feel should never have been there are put in front of you.

 

10. Self reflection is so important. Sometimes you have to evaluate yourself to see how the world sees you so that you do not unintentionally misrepresent yourself. This does not mean to put value on yourself based on what others think, but to improve your own self image and your representation of that image. Sometimes by viewing ourselves with an outside look, we see our own flaws that we ignored or missed unintentionally, and can work on changing ourselves for the better.

 

11. Life is not fair and it never will be. Never expect things to be done for you. Take advantage of the opportunities that come by and honestly do the best you can with them. Incorporate gratitude into your life.

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